With Max turning one last month it got me thinking about how I would do things differently with baby number two. I’m not saying I would completely change how I raised Max in his first year but being a new mummy I’ve learnt so much, I simply want to improve on my mummy skills. I’d also like to add before any of you think I’m pregnant, I’m most definitely not, although you’ll all probably know how broody I am at the moment! Anyway here’s how I would do things differently with baby number two.
1. I’d allow people to help. Being the neurotic mother I am I was terrified of leaving newborn Max with anyone, even his own father! I just felt like know one could look after Max the way I could and just wasn’t willing to give it a try. Next time around I will happily take up Freddie’s and the grandparents offers of babysitting so I can get things done or catch up on some much needed zzzz.
2. I want to breastfeed for a full year but I won’t be so hard on myself if it doesn’t happen. Breastfeeding was such a struggle for me, Max wouldn’t latch on properly and when he did it was the most painful thing I’d ever experienced. After my traumatic birthing experience I was simply exhausted and wasn’t willing to carry on with it. I pumped and pumped but the whole pumping routine wasn’t working for me either, it was all a bit time consuming. Within two weeks of breastfeeding I was done and I was SO hard on myself about it, I even felt ashamed feeding Max with a bottle in public. Next time around I will push through breastfeeding and see whether I can make it to a year and even if it doesn’t work out I’ll give myself a pat on the back for trying.
3. I’d wait until 6 months before I start weaning. Weaning as a first time mummy is super exciting, I couldn’t wait to get Max onto solids. Little did I know it was extremely time consuming meal planning and prepping/batch cooking his meals. Don’t get me wrong I absolutely loved experimenting with foods but I really wish I had waited and enjoyed how easy it was having a baby only on milk and not both! However if my baby does show signs of wanting solids I will of course start weaning a little earlier than 6 months.
4. I will NOT introduce a dummy. Max’s dummy is a right pain in the bum! He cries for it throughout the night, which means I have to stumble into his room at 3am fumbling around in his cot trying to find it. It’s my own doing and I never should have given one to him or I should have weaned him off him sooner. I think as a new sleep deprived mummy with a newborn you’re willing to try anything when your baby just won’t sleep or screams blue murder.
5. And finally I won’t worry so much and actually enjoy my time with my squishy newborn. I’m the biggest stress head and worry about everything. Next time around I’m going to go with the flow and not be so uptight and anal about everything. Whether it’s putting the baby into a routine, if he/she sleeps through the night etc. I just want to enjoy every second with both my babies because it’s crazy how quick time flies. Next thing you no they will be packing their bags for university and leaving me high and dry!
What are your 5 things you’ll do differently with your next baby?